Imagine if someone took advantage of the fact that you’re drunk to touch you, make you do sexual stuff, then, when you refuse to do what they ask you to do, you tied up, and steals things. I don’t think you would thing it’s ” Ok ” or ” A fun experience to happen to you. “. This is much worse than what Blaine did in S3.
I imagine Santa Cody could have scared and upset Kurt, and some viewers, very much. Other people seemed to get a laugh out of it or think it was hot, which I believe is what the writers intended.
Then there’s Blaine’s assault of Kurt. Some people were horrified by it. Many of us Gleeks stopped shipping Klaine because of it. Others thought it was hot. Or no big deal.
But you can’t say “well, Blaine sexually assaulted Kurt, but that Santa guy was even worse,” and have that be your defense of Blaine, without looking extremely creepy. It still doesn’t excuse what Blaine did.
Kurt shouldn’t be with either one of them, obviously.
But this is Glee.
Another key point: Kurt trusted Blaine, his boyfriend. He didn’t expect Blaine, even drunk, to refuse to take no for an answer, and he probably didn’t expect to have to say No almost a dozen times to get him to listen.
He had less reason to trust Cody, whom he’d barely just met, but it’s interesting that Cody stopped when Kurt said no. He may have wanted Kurt to roleplay a reindeer so he’d have an excuse to tie him up, without it being scary. He undoubtedly planned to rob them no matter what. He did tie Kurt up, and not in a fun way, but it doesn’t seem like he did anything further sexually.
It’s a shame Kurt had to be scared in both situations, but it’s worse that his boyfriend (at the time) betrayed his trust, than a stranger betraying his trust.
It’s interesting that in The First Time, Blaine is the one who got drunk and handsy, and wouldn’t stop. But in the Xmas episode, Kurt is the one who was drunk, and yes, was taken advantage of more easily because of that. But he chose to drink. And he stupidly was mixing alcoholic beverages (his spiked egg nog and the hot buttered rum that Cody fixed).
Do you know what kind of lesson that makes me think we should take away from this? You’re less able to think clearly when you’ve been drinking. You’re probably less able to defend yourself, and more likely to do things that you wouldn’t do if you hadn’t deliberately lowered your inhibitions by drinking. That’s one of the main resons people drink in social situations, so they can “relax” and “have fun” and “be spontaneous” and yet they also often use it as an excuse later. “Well, I was drunk, so it doesn’t count.” Or “I was drunk, and I don’t remember doing it, so it’s not my fault.”
For all the episodes Glee has done where someone gets drunk, it seems every time they do something stupid that comes back to bite them in the ass. This includes Will in “Blame It On The Alcohol,” and Blaine in the same episode. And yet, they continue to choose to drink in order to feel more at ease in social situations, or fit in, or because it’s “expected” of them.
That’s probably NOT the lesson Glee is trying to drive home, because I think they’ve gotten completely irresponsible with their messages. But I do think there’s a huge difference in Kurt trusting Blaine to not hurt him, and Blaine going ahead and breaking that trust.
Oh yeah, Blaine also violated Kurt’s trust again when he had sex with a guy he barely knew on Facebook. Why didn’t we hear more about the consequences of that, and why is it okay for Blaine to have sex with a stranger while in a relationship, but for Kurt to make out with someone and want to have sex with him, while he is single, is wrong?
Jesus Christ, I’m *sick* of reading about this.